'She's now moved me from the nice room to put her other two bridesmaids in there': Divisive bridezilla splits family up over expensive rooms

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    Facial expression - 'I cannot see you having a good time at this wedding now, I suspect the sister will be nasty no matter what you do at this point.'
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    Font - r/bridezillas. Posted by u/tillytomtiny 20 hours ago Bridezilla Sister Wedding
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    Font - My sister has been planning her wedding for 1 year now and we have another 6 months to go. Having chosen an (evidently) extremely expensive venue to hire (£15-£20k) a two-hour drive away from most of the family and guests, we'll be staying for two days. The venue can sleep about 40 people and guests are being charged £300 for the two-night stay. With 100 people invited, the others will find airbnbs and hotels. Sister and partner chose a venue that couldn't accommodate all family on top of
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    Font - At the start I was originally so excited to help her with anything wedding related. I wanted to know what room I'd stay in (house and all rooms have 360 tour online that I looked through after she told us we could see online). She got very cross at my question saying why did it matter. That she's not deciding yet. For £300 and a variety of rooms possible, I was curious. Especially as she said herself some are great and some are 's We left it a few months and I was then told what room I'd
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    Font - I said nothing initially other than thanking her for room as she'd said it was nice, and that I'd speak with 3yo parents (my Dad) about logistics. I didn't want to feel responsible. Sister immediately angry texting me saying what problem did I have with plan. Then sister quickly rang parent to tell them what she'd decided was happening before I could speak with them, and that as parent said okay, she informed I didn't need to speak to them about logistics and decision made, that it wasn't
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    Font - Sister then rang me 5 weeks later to say she no longer thought I should make their wedding cake as I'd offered 9 months ago and that she's now moved me from the nice room to put her other two bridesmaids in there. Didn't say where I now was. I said I found the way she speaks to me very unpleasant and difficult to keep experiencing and that had she been a friend talking to me like she does, I wouldn't be going to the wedding. She said she thinks I'm a piece of s*** and that she thinks I th
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    Font - Sister doesn't know yet. Have not been charged by sister yet for venue. Family say I should stay in venue despite her anger. Being told she may not forgive me if I stay elsewhere. I'm over the whole thing! I'm not one to pander to this behaviour regardless of event yet challenging to be encouraged to overlook this.
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    Font - ParkerBench +1 19 hr. ago . Why are people staying two nights for a wedding only 2 hours away? Is there more than one event? 42 Reply Share tillytomtiny OP. 19 hr. ago Party/gathering the night before and some of family guests are international. Plus 2 night minimum venue hire.
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    Font - shireatlas 19 hr. ago Ugh totally unhinged! I had accommodation at my venue and luckily I could afford to pay for it all as we only had 30 people - but even then I went OUT OF MY WAY to make sure that people were in rooms close to friends, that my sister, husband and her small children had an apartment type thing etc etc. and generally made sure everyone was comfortable with the rooming situ beforehand. 251 Reply Share FloMoJoeBlow +1.7 hr. ago This wedding is going to be a S how.
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    Font - stemofsage 18 hr. ago Honestly the place you rented sounds so much better. I would just text sister saying that you know she's stressed about the room situation so if there's someone who still needs a place she should give your spot to them to make it easier. Say you're happy to stay elsewhere to make it easier on her. Then, you come out ahead money-wise (and perhaps with more sleep too!) and she doesn't have to "stress." Win win.
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    Font - MadTrophyWife +3.2 hr. ago But make it clear that it's a fact, not an offer that can be rejected. "Hi WitchSis. I know the room situation has caused you a great deal of stress at a time you should be allowed to focus on your happy day. I have arranged alternate lodging for myself so that you no longer have to come up with an appropriate room for me. You can give that spot freely to someone else with no hard feelings. Love, FAFO"
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    Font - +3.19 hr. ago Screw the sister and her plans to have you babysit a 3 year old. You do you and what is convenient for you. RJack151 81 Reply Share S3XWITCH 5 hr. ago I was confused about this part. The 3 year old is OPs sibling?
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    Font - jenniw3g 20 hr. ago Definitely the Airbnb. Your sister sounds unhinged. Do your parents always cater to her b 206 Reply Share westbridge1157 - 19 hr. ago My guess is no one wants to rock sister's boat load of crazy.
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    Font - Izzy4162305. 17 hr. ago "have booked a stunning AirBnB": GOOD. "Sister doesn't know yet": EXCELLENT. "Have not been charged by sister yet for venue": Charged how? Did you give her a credit card #? If so, cancel the card. Continue to say nothing. "Family say I should stay in venue despite her anger": Seriously, they can all f right off a cliff. Or pay for your entire hotel stay. "Being told she might not forgive me if I stay elsewhere": Seems like a win to me. If she b s just tell her she
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    Bird - Jen5872 +2 - 19 hr. ago Sister can pound sand. At this point I wouldn't even go.
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    Font - Faer Ghostmama +218 hr. ago It sounds like your sister is pretty judgmental (choosing to invite your uncle but not your aunt, one cousin over another, etc.). She's acting more like a dictator than a loving sister/daughter/family member/friend. I'd be interested to know if ANYONE has called her out on this behavior ever? I'm guessing this isn't a one time thing and I'd be willing to bet she's shown these tendencies previously? Also, I wonder why she's so keen to impress your dad and his pa
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    Font - +2.17 hr. ago Wait until she asks for the $$$ then tell her you've made your own arrangements and she doesn't need to worry about making arrangements for you. Then back off and avoid the drama. If she had booked a room for you, you should have been given a room number and confirmation of it...you'll end up in a terrible room if she decides where you are staying. Marnnirk
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    Font - biteme789 • 16 hr. ago Putting you with a 3yo? 3yo should be with the parents; the very idea is ludicrous. You're not causing problems; you voiced a very realistic issue, and she got her knickers in a knot. Having an escape on the day if she's this mental now, is an excellent idea
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    Rectangle - katepig123 19 hr. ago I'm sorry, she's completely unreasonable. No need to indulge that BS.
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    Font - Rare-Turnover 158 . 18 hr. ago I cannot see you having a good time at this wedding now, I suspect the sister will be nasty no matter what you do at this point.
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    Font - TylerNadel +220 hr. ago Why are you even going? People act this way because everyone just allows the behavior. I have a hard time having sympathy for people that allow others to treat them like crap then want to complain. Reply Share 63 -Tinylittleshoes • 19 hr. ago Because clearly the sister has done this behaviour for years and it's not so easy to just walk away from family, and the knock on effects to other family members

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